The Holiday Army

Below are the others - Army holiday - at its March against us. Some of its generals are called Thanksgiving Day , Christmas , Hanukkah, New Year's Eve and New Year. They do not respect the broken heart and wounded emotionally, and its troops are merciless. They have no prisoners! They claim that participating in their joy and nostalgia, or we cut the grass with his thoughts militants spirit of Christmas. Sometimes openly declared war on us - without remorse or shame. Sometimes we were waiting in an ambush. Its agents have worked hard all year, until the day of Thanksgiving (or, sometimes, Halloween!) Trumpet signal to begin their attack. They do not seem to be satisfied that their celebrations and feasts and dinners and parties, unless they can rent each of us in the ranks. In fact, we wish them every success. All they really want to leave us alone and we want to ensure peace and tranquillity. We prefer our Silent nights to cover the dome and Jingle Bells. We did not intentionally destroy their pleasure, it's just that our pain makes them feel uncomfortable. They were conditioned by the fact that holidays should not stain or who suffer from a lack of wealth. Not only do we sell our wounds, while in his presence, but covers tafetán with sequins, too. They are convinced that all we need is to put on a happy face, and all our pain magically evaporate. In their mad pursuit of happiness, we learn balls shopping, music, holidays and perfumes food, packaging gifts, decorations (especially the angels!), Happy children with happy smiles, cards, invitations , Parties and gift-exchange. Any other time of year, snow is regarded as a pest shovel snow and through. In the festive season, but is marketed as a romantic and is associated with sleds and starry nights in front of chimneys, snuggle close to those we love. The most devastating they drop bombs in our lives are images of the reunion - both for the hi and shake the people who are very costly and sometimes, not often seen in some time. They can not be separated by geography, our loved ones can not cross the chasm of loss constraints before the tear-filled eyes. They remind us of things we should be grateful (and we're very grateful for many of these things they can imagine). Products with their spears in union delicious, never realizing that what we celebrate what we do enjoy today. We do not dream of attacking them in these battles to survive on vacation. With our noses pressed against the glass that separates us, you really long time to be a part of his happiness. I remember when he got his pleasure and we are also a part of his army of nostalgia and joy. Our hearts broken and bleeding wounds are not exempt us to be polite, however. Even if the pain does not give us permission to be rude and selfish, and we do not need to take measures against its open aggression, we are not helpless in these games. We can protect ourselves with the armor with dignity, but direct and simple explanations: We understand the need to rejoice, but this year we prefer quiet and private reflection and meditation. At present, it is difficult for us when it comes to major groups, and appreciate the fact that laughter and good humour. Our energy is so limited, we appreciate a little calm in face-to-one time with you in a more spiritual atmosphere. We take care to remind them how important it is for us to remind those who love que se han ido. These are claims that clarify our position to evaluate or criticize you. In nature, not a threat to the media, we must tell them what is good for us because it does not believe in themselves, and they use education. They can also exercise the muscles of our sense of humour. It will take an effort on our part, but it does all it is worth and is good for us. We can learn not to fall into the trap of thinking that our pain makes us the center of the universe. we can limit our demands that we treat others and especially restraint because it means in our pain. can cut a little slack and remember that once a certain time, we are just like you are now. It is good and healthy for us to consider our point of view, from time to time and determine if we are fair and reasonable. We can express our love in simple language, without haste all media without the frenetic, expensive and often hysterical hype that the holidays can generate. And we must exercise an expression of our love. Grief does not deprive us of our ability to love, but it reminds us even more dramatic for our need to both give and receive love, we are talking about. When we can exercise some control in situations gives us, and we feel less like victims in what seems a war for peace on earth to men of good will. Whenever we can educate and inform with mercy and compassion, we have a genuine spiritual gift of love to keep forever. May that the season is filled with a real blessing for peace. Good Grief Resources (http://www.goodgriefresources. Http: / / www.goodgriefresources.com us) has been established and was founded by Andrea Gambill than 17 years, daughter died in 1976. In 1977, he founded one of the first chapters of the International Volleyball Friends bereaved parent support group. In 1987 he founded and published the magazine of mourning, and in 2000 he came Centering Corporation as its new editor, Grief Digest. Twenty-eight years of experience in support of mourning has provided valuable information on specific needs of the bereaved families and their caregivers and wide access to a number of good resources.