The Holiday Army

Here it is again - the Holiday Army - in its annual report in March against us. Some of its generals are called Thanksgiving Day , Christmas , New Year , New Year's Eve and New Year's Day. They have no respect for cardiovascular and emotional injuries , And his troops are merciless. They have no prisoners! The request to participate in their joy and nostalgia, or we cut their tanks of the militant spirit of the holiday season. It is sometimes openly declared war on us - without shame or remorse. Sometimes we wait in an ambush. Their intelligence operators have worked hard all year, in anticipation of Thanksgiving (or sometimes Halloween!) Trumpet signal to begin their attack. They simply did not seem convinced that their celebrations and parties and dinners and festivities unless they can rent all of us in their ranks. In fact, we wish them well. All they want is to leave us alone and we want to mourn in peace. We prefer our quiet nights to cover the dome and Jingle Bells. We do not intentionally destroy your pleasure, it's just that our pain makes them feel uncomfortable. They have been conditioned to believe that the holiday should not suffer the failure or lack of frivolity. Not only do we sell our wounds, while in his presence, but covers taffeta with sequins and more. They are convinced that all we need is to put on a happy face and all our sorrows magically evaporate. In their mad pursuit of happiness, we're shooting bullets shopping, music, holidays and fragrances for food, gift wrapping, decorations (especially the angels!), Happy children with happy smiles, cards , Invitations, parties and exchange gifts. Among other time of year, snow is considered a nuisance to shovel and through Plogen. The holiday, but is presented as romantic and is linked to sleighs and starry nights in front of a fireplace, snuggled close to those we love. The most devastating they drop bombs on our lives are pictures of the meeting - the time and hugging people salvation is very costly and sometimes not often seen in a while. They can not be separated by geography, our loved ones can not cross Chasma for losses that loom before tear-filled eyes. They remind us of things we should be grateful for (and we are grateful for most things you can imagine). The products with their spears Union charming as ever achieve what we celebrate what we can not enjoy it now. We would not dream of attacking them in the struggle for survival on vacation. With our noses pressed against the glass that separates us, we really long to be part of their happiness. We remember the time we joined the party, and was also part of his army of nostalgia and joy. Our hearts broken and bleeding are not exempt us injury to be gracious, however. Although the pain does not give us permission to be selfish and rude and do nothing against his open aggression, no defense in these games. We can protect ourselves with the armor of dignity, with class, but simple and direct explanation: We understand the need for celebration, but this year we prefer a quiet and private atmosphere for reflection and meditation. It is now difficult for us in the form of large groups, and enjoy laughter and good humor. Our energy is so limited, we welcome the peace in time to get in a more spiritual atmosphere. We can gently remind them how important it is for us to remember those LOVE IS GONE. These are statements that clarify our position without having to criticize or judge you. I kind and not a threat to the media, we tell them what is good for us because he is not thinking about themselves, and you can use education. They can also exercise the muscles of our sense of humor. It will take some effort on our part but it is worth nothing, and it is good for us. We can learn not to fall into the trap of thinking that our pain makes us the heart of the universe. We can limit our demands that others treat us in particular and respectful, because it means for our pain. We can take some slack and remember that from time to time, so they are now. It is good and healthy for us to discuss possibilities of our time to time, and whether we are fair and reasonable. We can express our love simple and unhurried any way without the frenetic, expensive and often hysterical exaggeration that the holidays can generate. And we must exercise an expression of our love. Grief does not deprive us of our ability to love, which reminds us more and more dramatically our need to both give and receive love, as we speak. When we can have some control in situations that allow us, and we feel less as victims in what appears to be a war for peace on earth, goodwill toward men. Whenever we can educate and inform with mercy and compassion, we have a real spiritual holiday gift of love that will forever. May his season was filled with the blessing of true peace. Good Grief Resources (http://www.goodgriefresources. Http: / / www.goodgriefresources.com not) was established and was founded by Andrea Gambill that the 17-year girl died in 1976. In 1977, he founded one of the first chapters of friends, the merciful, a bereaved-Parent Support Group. In 1987, he founded and edited the magazine grief, and in 2000 it was focused Corporation as editor of its new magazine, Grief Digest. Twenty-eight years of experience in grief support has provided valuable information on the unique needs of victims and their caregivers and wide access to many good resources.